DAISIES AND BRUISES 🌼
What is it that you crave? Is it attention or love or sympathy or pity? Who do you crave it from, parents, friends, strangers or your partner? Why do you crave it? Do you like being the center of attraction in a group or you feel too lonely without it or you are just greedy and needy? Is it so wrong to want these things from the people you love, not much but just once in a while? Is it wrong that you want your parents to acknowledge you for who you are or is it wrong that you want credit for the work you been doing but instead the credit always goes to someone who didn’t even moved a finger? Why do we do this? Why do we act hurt on these little things which sometimes don’t even matter but still hurts?
What do we call a person who is emotionally unavailable? A ROBOT or COLD – HEARTED! But has anyone ever asked her/him that why don’t you let people in? Why don’t they let people see who they really are? You’ll always get only one answer, i.e. ,” essa nahin hai yaar, bas hum thoda kam hi bolte hai!” and then they will laugh and slide out of the conversation. Were they always like that? Nobody is emotionally detached from birth or nobody is born introvert. We grow up, things happen, drastic things happen. We want to think we are OK, but are we really OK? We try to fit in a perfect world where everyone is living a perfect life, where every guy has a set of abs to show off on the internet and all the girls have a perfect body to pair it with their bikinis and dresses. We are trying to fit in a world where our society thinks that if a girl is educated she won’t make a good BAHU and God Forbid! a guy can cry! These norms and these notions about what should we feel and what not to feel setup by our society are the very reason that people are scared to talk about their feelings, they are constantly told to not express how they really feel in front of their peers. But is it all really true? Are these stereotypes really what they say they are or is it just a way of society telling us how to live?
More than 60% of our youth is suffering from depression, anxiety or an existential crisis. What does these notions have to say about that, its just a phase! It’ll pass. It happens, he/she is a teenager! Its the hormones. Is he/she on drugs? They don’t have good company. They are arrogant and casual towards life and will never achieve things. These are the things that I can guarantee everyone must have heard in their teenage and early 20’s. How many of those were true? Are we really on drugs or is it just a phase that has not passed yet? Because many of us are waiting for it to pass. Depression, anxiety and bipolar are very real things. They are not excuses for someone to get out of something they don’t want to be in. These are serious conditions that can lead to a change in the personality of a person and can change their whole life.
Mental health is as important as physical health but not everyone gets it. Its time for these norms to change and only we can do that. Don’t let anyone tell you what to feel, they are your emotions and not anyone else’s. You shouldn’t have to apologize for being emotional or stoic or resilient. Its ok to make mistakes, to have bad days, to be less than perfect, to do what’s best for you and to be yourself. Give yourself permission to regroup and unplug, without feeling guilty. You can’t be there for others if you don’t take care of yourself first. Be who you are and be proud of it.
“You may have to fight a battle more than once.” – Margaret Thatcher.